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The Glory of Period Sex (+ a Bloody Good Giveaway)
“I don’t think I can bring myself to send her tongue-spelunking through my bloody cave,” muses the first-ever mention of period sex in my years’ worth of journals. It signals an apprehension I still...
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3 Sexual Fantasies I Hope to Act Out Someday
One of the best things about working in sex media: you’re constantly exposed to new kinks and scenarios, and therefore, if you’re lucky, you’re constantly coming up with new sexual fantasies to lust...
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8 Ways to Explore a Sexual Fantasy (Without Actually Doing It)
Sex can be scary! I find straight-up vanilla sex intimidating sometimes – bodies and expectations and insecurities, oh my! – and kink can be even moreso. Especially when I’m thinking about introducing...
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5 Times Kink Helped Me Love My Body
One of kink’s many magical qualities: you have to keep talking about it. All the time. There are no assumptions, no scripts, nothing for which consent is presupposed. At least, not the way I prefer to...
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Review: Bargain Hunterz Sienna Cage Bra
Content note: there are boobs in this post! It is, therefore, NSFW – so don’t scroll down if you’re at work. Unless your workplace is unusually boob-friendly, in which case, kudos to the...
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The Departed Dominant & the Jilted Submissive
My collar is too tight. I keep tugging at it, loosening it, shifting it against my sweat-slick throat. It doesn’t feel quite right, because my submission doesn’t feel quite right. It’s been five weeks...
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Nightstand Necessities: Wednesday Addams
Happy Friday the 13th and early Halloween, my loves! Nightstand Necessities is a feature where I pick a fictional character and imagine what sex products they would own. Previously: Rosa Diaz, Chuck...
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5 Reasons I’d Totally Hire an Escort
Sex workers are awesome. In the past few years, I’ve befriended several, and have come to realize just how profoundly vital and healing their services can be for their clients. Far from the...
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3 Times Working Sex Toy Retail Made Me Feel All Warm and Fuzzy
It’s a commonly-spouted truism that working retail sucks, and I can’t argue with that. But some types of retail establishment suck less than others. As far as retail goes, if I get a choice, I’ll...
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How to Flag as Kinky
Adorable impact play pin and spanking patch by Kinktionary! Since realizing I was well-and-truly kinky a few years ago, one of the foremost problems I’ve faced is: how do I find other kinksters to play...
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3 Hot Fantasies I Have About Sex Dolls
Eerie voyeur. Sir is kissing me, and peeling off my clothes, when suddenly… “Hang on, I forgot something important,” he breathes against my lips. My eyes drift open and I watch him stand up, grab the...
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Book Review: Of Sound Mind and Someone Else’s Body
Content note: there are some discussions of nonconsensual sex, transphobia, gender dysphoria, and whorephobia in this post. Have you ever read the plot summary for a piece of media and immediately...
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Sexy Snaps & Photo Booth Flirtations
Being in a new long-distance relationship has me pondering ways to create intimacy across vast expanses. I know it’s possible because I’ve felt it. Sometimes partners who lived just a quick streetcar...
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Take Your Sweetheart to a Sex Shop
Sex shops feel drastically different depending on whether you’re there alone, with a friend, or with someone you like to bang. Some sex-shop trips are meandering, some are matter-of-fact, and some are...
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5 Ways to Fuck Up Your Social Media Strategy As a Sex Blogger
I’ve been a sex blogger for almost six years, and here’s what I know about social media: it can make or break you, both professionally and personally. I’ve built my audience through smart usage of...
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Why Everyone Should Give (and Get) More Massages (+ 3 Quick Massage Tips)
Hey, can we talk about massages for a sec? They are a more powerful sexual and relational tool than most people realize. “Massage porn” was one of Pornhub’s top-ten search terms last year. Journalist...
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Come Fly With Me: 5 Travel-Sex Stories
A rumpled morning-after bed at the Wythe Hotel in Brooklyn. I truly felt like a jetsetter the first time I sexted in a TSA line. Leaving New York felt impossibly sad, in no small part because of the...
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What Makes Bad Sex So Bad?
I’ve been a sex nerd for a long, long time, y’all. One of the ways this manifested early in my life was subscribing to the Bad_Sex community on LiveJournal. At the time, I didn’t give much critical...
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Why Everyone Should Own Lube
There are very few immutable truths when it comes to sex. Here are a few I think are important: No matter how weird you think your sexual tastes are, there are people out there who are into the same...
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How to Prepare For a Spanking
A surprisingly frequent search term people use to find my website is “how to prepare for a spanking.” At first, I found this confusing – what’s to prepare? Just drop trou and you’re good to go! – but...
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